As I file this report I am on the road heading to visit my 84 year old father. He lives 1500 miles away with very little chance of being any closer so I have had to learn how to deal with eldercare issues from a distance. I have been lucky thus far and my father has been very healthy I know that as time and his age advances that may not continue. This trip is my opportunity to see how he is getting along and to continue searching out resources for care he may need in the future.

Planning care from a distance is a challenge but it can be done with some organization. The most inportant thing to remember is to keep yout older relative, friend or loved one involved in all decisions. Be flexible, patient, and have realistic expectations.

Here are some questions to start with.

What Level of Care Is Needed?
Can your loved one live alone or is it time to move to a setting with more supervision? If your elder is eating well, taking care of personal needs and living in a safe environment, they should do well. Living alone for many seniors is actually a good arrangement. Most seniors will tell you they fear losing their independence more than they fear death.
What Could I Do to Help Retain Independence?
Are there any services available that could help. I noticed my father had been losing weight. When I quesioned him about this he said it was just a bother sometimes to cook. I first talked with his doctor who said there was no physical problems. With my father's permission I contacted the local Meals-on Wheels and arranged for meals to be delivered 3 days a week.This served a dual pupose of sving him the bother of cooking adn it meantsomeone was checking on him.
Are There Exceptional Healthcare Needs? My father is in good health, not taking any medications and gets adequate exercise. But he did have cataract surgery last fall and needed help for a few days. Luckily I was able to go and help. If I had not been able to go I would have arranged to have a visiting nurse come in to administer the eyedrops he needed.
What Will The Future Bring? While a loved one may be doing well now , one must always look toward the future. Rather than be panicing and trying to find assiated living or a nursing home ata tiem of crisis, take some time to look and investigate whil there is no pressure. This may be difficult because you need to know what is affordable. Your loovedone may be very reluctant to divulge information about insuracne and financial matters.

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